How happily people assume and visualize, much more than what has been said, discussed and analyzed. But how did it all start?
A lady complains about sexual harassment, and the complaint says that she is being harassed from last 5-6 years; it makes me wonder what took her so long to complain. My mind goes into its analytical mode and the mind machine starts thinking. Majority of the cases the boss and the lady were having cordial relations in the past – I don’t mean that they are in any kind of relationship, but as an employee and a boss they are cordial to each other.
Think for yourself. When a lady joins an organization she is eager to give her best in her job, prove her mettle and climb the hierarchy. Just like any other employee. Even male counterparts would be sailing in the same boat. And who is the first person to approve her work, motivate her and rate her performance? The Boss.
Now we have seen so many times in films and TV serials – the touching of hands over the mouse, a simple pat on the back, just brushing past etc. etc. The first reaction of a lady to all these antics is most important. You know there are some women, who are given names like मिर्ची, तीखी छुरी, तेज तलवार, even गुरु घंटाल meaning they are compared with chilies, knives, swords etc. etc. One glance from these ladies will make the man freeze and he will forever stay away from her. Just miss this first reaction, and you give that man more courage. Over a period of time, if the lady does not reacts and remains coy; it gives a silent confirmation of moving forward or acceptance. Then one fine day, when the man becomes comfortable to take any kind of freedom, the lady suddenly realizes that she is a victim of sexual harassment.
Somewhere, I read about working spouse. So, is the complaint a 7 year itch?