Observe your Mind

If your mind is Cool, you:

  • Make good decisions
  • Don’t get confused
  • Make less mistakes
  • Don’t get angry or feel afraid
  • Attract respect from others

If your mind is Calm, you:

  • Become peaceful and happy
  • Are less worried and frustrated
  • Don’t get stressed about work or exams
  • Can pay more attention to people you love
  • Find people will like you more

If your mind is Concentrated, you:

  • Get less distracted by useless things
  • Find it easier to focus and learn
  • Perform better in sports and games
  • Make better music and art
  • Will be more trustworthy

 

Not original – Collected

 

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Forgiveness

Today I read:

When we do not forgive ourselves or others, the mind is stuck in the past and cannot rest in peace. A mind that cannot forgive others probably seeks revenge and is thus agitated. And thus forgiveness is essential if we desire peace of mind.

Thinking elaborately on this subject –

Say two people A & B have hurt each other. Now A thinks in above direction and mentally tries to forgive and forget about the issue. Then say they meet after some time. A tries level best to be good, not bringing the past or even remembering it. A takes all the initiative to re-kindle the relationship and make it as before, But B is adamant not expecting A to be goody goody so he does not respond to A’s new warm feelings. After they part A would introspect that, see I have forgiven and forgotten, but still B is bitter towards me and not understanding my changed feeling. So again A is remembering the past, again trying that maybe I have not forgiven whole heartedly – again the cycle of forgive, forget, meet and again get cold vibes follows. After some 4-5 such cycles A is totally confused, gets totally depressed and then comes in the revenge mode, the next time he meets B – they have a huge fight even bigger that the one that started it off.

I feel that forgiveness has to be given and also accepted. Without acceptance of forgiveness, it is not of any use. It is a two way process.

From my Facebook post dated April 23, 2011

GRATITUDE

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Going by “The Secret”, the chapter of Gratitude is my most favourite one. Thinking of my life till date I feel
  • Thank God for giving me higher education …. Today I know how it acted as a sole foundation to improve my life in all aspects.
  • Thank God for showing me both the corporate life as well as life of a house-wife…. Today I understand the emotional side of every woman.
  • Thank God for giving me elders who shared their good and bad experiences with me…. Today I know how much I learned from them.
  • Thank God for a hand to mouth childhood and a better off today…. Today I know the value of Money
  • Thank God for not giving me inheritance or easy money…. Today I know the value of toiling hard and earning my own bread and butter.
  • Thank God for showing gloomy and sad days in life…. Today I know the value of staying happy under any circumstances.
  • Thank God for surrounding me with people whom I didn’t gel with…. Today I know to value the relationships.
  • Thank God for giving me friends who turned their backs on me…. Today I know the importance of taking the initiative and helping when a friend is in need.
  • Thank God for giving me anger and short temper…. Today I know the value of silence and staying cool.
  • Thank God for giving me ill health and a stupid life style at some points in my life…. Today I know the value of good health and fitness.
  • Thank God for giving me a strict parent…. Today I know the value of freedom and the responsibilities that come along.

From my Facebook Post dated October 1, 2010

“Annicca” – This will also change

 “Annicca” is a Pali word meaning “This will also change”. For me this word is my rescue button in times of hardship, sorrow and the low moments of life. However happy days also pass, and it is required that we remind ourselves that just like sorrow happiness will also not last forever. Very difficult to practice.

These days with the work of my volunteering at Kadam getting a good review (an article in DNA and a snap in TOI), 3 things happened.

1. Felt highly motivated to carry on this honorary work.

2. A bit afraid that I may not meet the expectations, now that they have escalated.

3. My ego started surfacing and bubbling.

I am maximum worried about the third one, because if the third one is taken care of the other two will automatically fall in place.  And “Immanuel – GOD with us” – So, I got my eye-opener moment.

Just before 10 days I appointed a lady at my place to cook dinner. She is full of energy and very talkative. On 29th, due to my ego I was showing off my picture in the TOI to each and every one. Well, she was also one of them. After knowing about my philantrophic adventures, she told me hers.

Well, she cooks at six homes – lunch and dinner – so she’s busy from 6:00 am to 12:00 noon and again from 4:pm to 9:00 pm. Between 12:00 noon and 4:00pm she and her daughter-in-law do stiching and “fall beading” for sarees of a leading saree store – where her son works as a salesman. Her husband works (as a peon) in one of the office of the stock exchange. As all persons in the family work, her husband does not give his salary at home. Instead half he uses on himself, other half – he buys chapples, grains, umbrellas, sugar, tea, etc. and donates to whoever he finds needy along the roadside. Also, he is a bhakht of Mataji and does some puja and astrology at home. So people offer sarees to Mataji. The family members do not use these Sarees, but donate them. This lady after knowing my efforts towards Kadam and relief material collection for Uttarakhand, brought 4 sarees, 3 sweaters to be donated to Uttarakhand, and 10 pairs of chappals for the children of Kadam. Recently she had gone for a “Char Dham Yatra” in May -where she and her husband donated many sarees and also made cash donations.

Just comparing her family income,status,position with mine, I realised that I may sound higher up in material listing, but when it came to philantrophy she is way ahead of me.. with the family contributing much more in  comparision to their income.  I have started my social activies only after my family is financially sound and secure, I have a maid to do all the chores, even employed the cook for dinner now, but her family is toiling hard and even in these times they have become philantrophic. Hats off to her.

Well my ego got a lesson, now I am fully grounded and thank her, salute her family.

From my Facebook – Dated July 3, 2013