Idle Money

Infuse Stagnant Money in the Economy – which is resting Idle in Religious Temples, Temple Trusts & with Religious Leaders and Saints.

In Past we have heard many news like

  1. Rs xxx crores of Sri Satya Sai Trust
  2. Rs xxx crores found in the basement of Padmanabh Temple
  3. Net worth of Baba xxx speculated to be several hundred crores

etc. etc.

Big temples like Shri Balaji, Shirdi Sai, Golden temple, Padmanabh Temple etc.etc. receive offerings in form of gold, silver and hard cash worth crores. I feel that most large scale offerings come from the parallel or black economy. This money should not lie idle but must be infused in the economy for the betterment of the society. It may just be a drop from the ocean of black money in India, but this drop can help a lot of people in India.

Where does the money come from?

  1. From the very very rich who offer gold/silver etc. – which may or may not be from the black economy.
  2. People who have blind faith in temples & saints.
  3. Illiterates who are lured by God men or Conman.

Reason why gold, silver and cash is offered

  1. People in India are brought up with the thought that you should offer a part of your income to GOD as a thanksgiving. This is a very good thought, but losing the purpose in today’s world.
  2. These days people are being selfish – If I get this/that – than I will offer X amount to God.
  3. Then some temples have a strong faith line defined – that if you pray at this temple you attain moksha, or your wish will be granted – and all people feel that yes let me go and fulfill my wishes – and if one or two wishes are fulfilled, the faith strengthens and he/she land up offering at this temple.
  4. Then there are the so called living God’s, saints and preachers etc. They are good orators and gather people in multitudes around them – organize courses for say yoga, meditation, ram katha, bhagvat katha, etc. etc. People go to them feel relieved from the daily stressful life and end up offering their money/wealth.

What can be done?

  1. Create awareness – about how this money can help the poor in India today.
  2. The money can be used to build houses, hospitals, roads, educate the poor, create health facilities, impart skill based knowledge to the poor, etc.
  3. The receiving party – temples, saints etc. should be made to realize that this money is of the common people and should be used for the common man.
  4. Temple trusts are quite old and have been working since several decades. They would not like to be dictated by some new law or rule, so their sentiments have to be taken care of.

Dreams & Ambitions

Yes, write it down. Hearing it from long long time but every time I wrote down something about my personal life, it was all about the sorrow, tears, the unfulfilled expectations, the wrong perceptions etc. etc. all the negativity of life. Yes, I wrote it down, tear it – NO – forgive but don’t forget.  It helps, yes I have come a long way out of those deep negative valleys, but fear manifests when you want to write your dreams, ambitions, something about future, the mountains you want to climb. Maybe am not ready to believe that just as writing the negativity helped wash it out, writing about my wishes, dreams, ambitions, goals will help fulfill them. Yes, mentally churning in the ocean of thoughts.

Last two days I am trying to list out the things I would like to do in future, but somehow couldn’t go beyond a few line, jotting out in an official list like format. It was like a punishment of thinking what means do I need to achieve these goals, fulfill the dreams, and oh God I was thinking of all the material benefits of the world. Everything is related to money, and yes demonetization makes the thoughts dearer. First it is all about what kind a home I would like to build with all the luxuries and facilities, the four wheels I would like to be driven around in, the lifestyle that I can give to my daughter, travelling to international destinations annually, buying diamonds, etc. Obviously next are the means to achieve all these – oh my – do I really want to run after these things?

My near and dear ones are aware of my personal front, and some of them are like – yes, show it to the world that you are capable of doing much better single handedly, move ahead in life, and acquire wealth and status. Recently, during Diwali, I had this same advice coming from an elderly relative, almost 90 years old, and yes at that moment I felt passionate about it, go for it girl, you can do it….

What do I really want in life? Can I answer my question honestly and sincerely to myself? What is the most important thing in life? My life, be precise. Yes, be selfish and answer honestly.

Feeling blessed with a beautiful daughter and my delicate darling mother, their smiles, and the special bond I share with them, blessed and gratitude to God. Daily viewing the beauty of nature, the chirping of the birds, rustling of dry leaves, seeing the tender buds and new leaves, the joy of touching an old familiar book, the smile on the face of a dirty child on the roadside, the astonishment on the face of a stranger when I give her a broad smile during my morning walks, SOS group tea, chatting and laughing on social media, the innumerable free of cost pleasures of life. But still something is amiss. Give happiness be happy, feel the whole universe as one….

And honestly, the honesty and sincerity flee at this point of time… the fear raises its head, the fear of being vulnerable, the guards are on duty, showing you a mirror from within, raising doubts about own self, don’t you dare, how dare you? But dare I must, to grow, to kill my own fears and not show to the outside world, but give satisfaction to my own self. Yes, achieve all the material goals, work hard, not forgetting the small pleasures, fill the cracks of what is missing, believe that I am worthy of all the bounty life has to offer. Heal the broken heart, gather the broken pieces, heal the soul, smile and be grateful. And never ever forget anyone who willing walks along in this journey of mine, helping me or just being there.

Dreams, yes, earn handsomely, work harder and harder, network, shun non productive and negative things, get a four wheeler and take the SOS girls on a road trip. Don’t forget to visit Europe. And one more wish, yes blurt it out…. Can’t be fulfilled in this life… oh…keep it to myself….

બ્રહ્મ અને બ્રહ્માંડ : ઘૂંઘટ કે પટ ખોલ, તોહે પિયા મિલેંગે !


‘ડિવાઇન લોજીક હ્યુમન લોજીકથી અલગ છે. એમાં એક વત્તા એક બે નથી એક છે, શૂન્ય છે, અનંત છે!’ (સ્વ. નાથાભાઈ જોશી)

મોઢેરા જેવા આપણા પ્રાચીન મંદિરોનાં કુંડની ડિઝાઈનમાં પિરામીડ જેવું રહસ્ય હશે એક્બીજાના અનંત મિરર યુનિવર્સની જ્યોમેટ્રી સિમેટ્રી રચવાનું ?

“દુનિયાભરમાં એક હિન્દુ ધર્મ જ છે, જે એવું માને છે કે સ્વયં બ્રહ્માંડ પણ પ્રલય અને નિર્માણના અનંત ચક્રોમાંથી પસાર થાય છે. યાનિ કી, બ્રહ્માંડ જન્મે છે, મરે છે, ફરી જન્મે છે, ફરી મરે છે.  આવી સાઇકલ સનાતન ચાલ્યા જ કરે છે અને હિન્દુ ધર્મ જ એક અજોડ પુરાતન ધારા છે, જે માને છે કે બ્રહ્માંડ એક નથી, અનેક કે યુનિવર્સ નથી, મલ્ટીવર્સ છે.

એટલે કે પ્રાચીન હિંદુ પરંપરામાં અનેક ઇશ્વર છે. એક જ દેવ-દેવીના મલ્ટીપલ રૃપ છે (વિષ્ણુનો અવતાર રામ પણ હોય અને પરશુરામ પણ! અને બંને પાછા એકબીજાને મળે પણ ખરા! વળી પદ્મનાભ પણ હોય અને બાલાજી પણ!) બધાના પોતપોતાના બ્રહ્માંડ છે. જે એકબીજાને સમાંતર ચાલે છે. આ…

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मारा राम तमे सीताजी नी तोले न आवो



आज दशेरा के पावन अवसर पर हम सीताजी को कैसे भूल शकते हे. हम हमेशा राम को महत्व देते हे और साथ में सीता को याद करते हे, जैसे जय सियाराम बोलकर. क्या क्या नही सहा सिताजीने – वनवास, फिर रावण, अग्निपरीक्षा, और रामराज्य बचाने के हेतु अपने ही पति ने त्याग कर दिया और फिर से वनवास. अकेले ही रही गर्भवती हो कर, दो दो बच्चो को अकेले बड़ा किया, फिर भी हम कभी भी सीता नवमी को राम नवमी की तरह त्यौहार नही मनाते. उनके प्रति ये भेदभाव, क्या इसलिए की वो एक औरत हे? क्या हम उनको अन्याय तो नही कर रहे?

मुझे लगता हे की हम हमेशा सीता को एक त्याग की मूर्ति के रूप में देखते है, और उसी का उदाहरन दे दे कर नारी को बलिदान की मूर्ति बनने की प्रेरणा देते है। इस ज़माने में हमे उस दिन सीताजी जो जरूर याद करना चाहिये जिस दिन उन्होंने राम के साथ वापस जाने की जगह, अपने आप को धरती मे समा लिया। शायद वो देवी अपनी बाकी की पूरी जिंदगी जंगल में ही रही होगी, बिना पति, बिना बेटो के, और ये पुरुष प्रधान समाज ये सहन नही कर पाया होगा, और पौराणिक काल ने उनको धरती में समा गयी कहना मुनासिब समजा हो. जिस दिन सिताजी ने राम का साथ न देनेका निर्णय लिया उस दिन को हमे नारी स्वतंत्रता का उदय मानकर उस दिन को त्यौहार मनाना चाहिए.

नारी हमेशा से त्याग और बलिदान की मूरत रही हे, लेकिन वोही नारी एक दिन जब खुद निर्णय लेती हे, अपने वजूद को समजती हे और अपने आप को मान देने के लिए खुद खड़ी होती हे, तो समाज उसे समज नही पाता. और रामायण ने उसे जमीन में समा लिया. काश रामायण में सीता जो बचपन में परशुराम का बाण चलाती थी, वो धरती में न समाकर, बाकी की जिंदगी वन में न काटकर, एक योध्धा बनके, नये राज्य की स्थापना करती तो आज ये पुरुषप्रधान समाज न होते, और स्त्री को सही में समकक्ष माना जाता.

“Bindass” – a prey to perception?


Surprisingly “બિંદાસ” a common word used by the Gujarati Community is not found in the Gujarati dictionary and doing some Google search, I found that Google translates the Hindi word “बिंदास” to English as “Cool”. Nearest Gujarat word is “નચિંત” with translates to carefree, easy going. That’s for the textbook record 🙂

Carefree, Cool, without any worries, relaxed, that’s how I perceive my life to be, and am moving ahead, living joyfully. All these meaningful adjectives are in my mind, my heart, my soul. I perceive myself to be cool under any situation, mentally being carefree and without worries, even with many responsibilities on my shoulder. In my late forties, I am positive, relaxing and enjoying life, in every moment that life gives me.  “Bindass” – yes for me it is running free, not being tamed, maybe until I find someone just as wild and willing to run along.

“Bindass” is from the mind, your thoughts, keeping your culture, your social values, your moral values intact, and obviously nothing to do with your body.  Remember what Charlie Chaplin said “Your naked body should only belong to those who fall in love with your naked soul”

Don’t judge the Word “Bindass” with a narrow mind; if you are incapable to understand one word, understanding a person is out of reach.

Saddened by Balloons


Yes, feeling saddened by balloons… Surprising, but every day I cross the Pakwan Signal to and fro from my office, the sight of the polka dotted balloons makes me a wee bit sad.

It so happened that these are new balloons with polka dots, not tied but wrapped around a plastic straw; a real delight for the eyes are a beauty to hold. I had my eyes on them for quite a few days, wanting to buy a few. But normally ignored my wish and drove my two-wheeler away each and every day. But, finally I knew I had to give in to my urge and buy a few of the balloons.

Now my daughter is in college, so I felt that let me buy some for a friend’s niece and nephews. One day I stopped after crossing the signal, called a small about 8-9 year old girl and asked her the price of the balloon. Within a second I was surrounded by almost 6-7 balloon sellers from 6 year old to the eldest who was a young teenage mother,  let me call her “Lakshmi”. The price was Rs. 20/- per balloon. The one who I had approached, let me call her “Anamika”, said that she would give me 2 for Rs. 30/- even when I didn’t negotiate. I assume that the whole gang is together in selling the balloons. So this Lakshmi dominates all and finalizes to give me 3 balloons for Rs. 50/-. Now as I had stopped Anamika for my purchase, so I select 2 balloons from her and one from Lakshmi. I give the Rs. 50/- note in the hand of Lakshmi.

And the drama unfolds. Anamika asks for Rs 30/- for her two balloons. So, I ask Lakshmi to give Anamika her Rs 30/-; as I don’t have change. She tells me that she will give, I insist that she do so right in front of me, Anamika is begging for her money, I am confused, perplexed as to what is happening; the whole traffic and commotion around,  I start driving away. But this young child Anamika is confident that her money is gone and cries in a very loud voice, which is very much audible with traffic honking all around. I stop after driving almost 25 feet and turn back to look. Oh God! Anamika is lying on the road and crying loudly for her money. I look at Lakshmi, and she is totally ignoring Anamika and going her way.

What am I supposed to do? I have paid for the balloons I bought, but one corner of my heart feels that I have betrayed Anamika by not giving her the money. The road side vendor advises me to move on, as it is regular drama for him, and I do so, but with a heavy heart. I decide to give Rs 40/- to Anamika the next time I see her at the signal, and forget the episode for that day. Next day, next day, next day ….. almost a fortnight has gone, and everyday my eyes are searching for Anamika, who is not seen till day.  Now, the sight of the balloons make me sad, I long to find Anamika and give her due, maybe someday I will find her. Till then I pray and send her love and peace, hope that someone better than me has found her, and I wish from the bottom of my heart that she gets educated and has a bright future.



The word “Celibacy” defined by the dictionary as “a state of abstaining from marriage and sexual relations” has remained a mystery for me. As a young adult, during my days we could never talk about it as its antonym “Promiscuity” wouldn’t be far behind in the discussion, as oh my that “world of mine” would not hear the “P” of it. Wikipedia defines “Promiscuity – is the practice of having casual sex frequently with different partners or being indiscriminate in the choice of sexual partners”. Glad, that today I have progressed enough to write on one of them, obviously mentioning the other.

Thinking of these two conditions is it purely on the physical level or it’s all in the mind?

Maybe, I consider that woman a celibate, who night after night gives in to her husband’s desire, with none left in her to look forward to; for her it is a mere physical act which she undergoes, to avoid xyz things of the life she shares with her husband and her family. Fear of her man becoming promiscuous, facing the brunt of the society that the wife was not able to satisfy him enough, that he started looking elsewhere – are one of the many reasons a woman endures such a relationship. Act after act, she remains celibate.

That again brings me to another fact that a man largely chooses to be celibate or promiscuous. For a woman? Yes the new generation girls are geared up and will choose their way. I am loving it. But, here I am talking of women of my generation, in their late forties, an average Indian woman. It is believed that if you are married, you are in a happy sexual relationship. If the society hears of your affairs (even a single one) you are promiscuous and labeled a slut; and the third respected soul – a happily celibate spinster. Yes, the aunt – your mother’s sister, your father’s sister…. any cousin sister if unmarried she is celibate. Period.  Sometimes even in my forties, during discussions, if this celibate woman is present, I have seen ladies pointing out and stop talking about anything that an unmarried teenage girl shouldn’t be listening to. There is an overload of information in this area, and we Indians are still so immature. Understand that, even if she is a single and a virgin, she understands everything.

So who is to be labeled Celibate and Promiscuous? It’s all in the mind. Draupadi can be celibate with five husbands, and someone without any physical relations can be promiscuous, night after night having desirous dreams of the super hero, cricketer, an actor, a colleague or any handsome guy sighted in the near past.

And why sex alone – you can be celibate or promiscuous for all moral values, ethics and much much more. Yes, it’s all in the mind, there are no pros or cons of being celibate; it’s a personal choice, needed to be respected by one and all. Don’t analyze anyone’s choice and behavior, as it is the woman who only knows whether she’s celibate or promiscuous.